Was it age discrimination?
“I went up for this job, and I didn’t get it. A younger guy got it, and I’m wondering if it was because of my age. Should I be using Grecian Formula?”
-Fred
We can always wonder if not getting a job is because of some discrimination. It’s the age thing?  Or the woman thing?  Realistically, we’re never going to know, so why bother asking the question?  Make sure you’re qualified and keep going.
About the Grecian Formula, all I can say is that I’ve dyed my hair since I was in my 20’s.  Vanity can go in both directions – we can be vain in the pursuit of youth and we can be vain in flaunting our age.
I’m not going to pretend that a youthful appearance isn’t part of the game.
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The point at the heart of this is that it’s not worth getting tangled up in asking questions we cannot answer – especially during a job search.
Doing so can make our inner fears bigger because we cannot confirm or discredit them with input from an outside source. In turn this can tear away at our self confidence.
That’s the absolute last thing any job seeker needs.
December 1st, 2009 at 12:11 pm
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December 1st, 2009 at 1:02 pm
“Many people in the United States and Europe use hair dyes. It is estimated that more than one-third of women over age 18 and about 10 percent of men over age 40 use some type of hair dye (1)… Over 5,000 different chemicals are used in hair dye products, some of which are reported to be carcinogenic (cancer-causing) in animals (2, 3)… Some studies have indicated that people who began using hair dyes before 1980 have an increased risk of developing non-Hodgkin lymphoma.” http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/Risk/hair-dyes
Do you really want to work for someone who values youth over experience? Cheers!
December 1st, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Excellent point, Marie. I think many employers want it all. If you’ve done your homework and identified an ideal employer with the criteria of valuing experience you may fare better.
December 6th, 2009 at 8:06 am
Your point at the heart of it is absolutely valid, “…it’s not worth getting tangled up in asking questions we cannot answer …” Such questions lead us down the road of victimhood, looking to blame something/someone outside of ourselves for our experience. Personal accountability is a place of no blame. No blame of self or others. It is a place of accepting the reality before us and moving forward from a centered place. Which feeds our self-esteem, our attitudes, our energy and our unconscious facial expressions, all of which speak volumes to interviewers.
In my interviewing experience it isn’t the look of a person that is essential it is the thinking – innovative, creative, engaged, dare I say design thinking.
This shows up in self-care, energy, interests and value that a person brings to a position. None of which comes from a dye bottle. ;->
Cheers, DJ
December 6th, 2009 at 8:14 am
Right on, DJ!
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